When your husband embarrasses you while he drinks, there can be a more complex issue he is trying to oppress. His drinking habits can be because of his low self-esteem or trying to cope with some phycological problems. There are ways to make this problem better for both parties involved.
I can guarantee you that you are not alone when it comes to this problem. Knowing how to deal with your embarrassing husband, whether it’s the amount of alcohol he consumes or his actions, or both, FatherResource is here to make life easier and support you when it comes to an embarrassing drunk husband.
Going out and having fun with friends and family should be fun. Having a husband who consistently embarrasses you by drinking too much can make you dread any social gathering where alcohol is involved. It may be the amount of alcohol that he consumes and his behavior when he drinks that embarrasses you.
Why Your Husband Embarrasses You When He Is Drunk
Your husband may be drinking excessively due to many reasons. One of these is that men feel empowered when drinking. Alcohol gives men a self-esteem boost. I know you don’t want your husband’s drinking to be justified, but I am saying they have a reason for always going overboard when it comes to drinking.
George Kimmerling highlights that one of the reasons men want to get to the point of being embarrassing drunk is that they feel they have more in common with their fellow males.
I know what you are thinking. It’s not only the amount he drinks that embarrass you. It is his actions as well. Remember what everybody always told us when we were younger? “The truth comes out when you are drunk.” Your husband may be mean to you when he is drunk because it is suppressed conflict coming out.
Never try to resolve this conflict when he is drunk, instead, wait until the following day and have a sober civilized conversation. By doing this, you save yourself some heartache and embarrassment.
Remember, no matter how the embarrassment is caused, there is always a good and proper way to handle the situation.
How To Handle Embarrassment Caused By Your Drunk Husband
We all enjoy having fun with friends and family having a glass of wine around the BBQ. However, this can become the most dreaded activity in your life! Especially in these unprecedented times.
Before I lay down all the facts, here is a brilliant video from The Wall Street Journal.
Although this video does not address embarrassment caused by alcohol, it still highlights some excellent points regarding embarrassment caused by your partner.
Being embarrassed can be one of the worst feelings in the world, mainly if it’s caused by the person you love. Here are some valuable tips from Beliefnet to deal with the situation the right way.
- Your husband spills his drink on the carpet, and it’s not your house or carpet, so you are embarrassed. Luckily this type of behavior by your husband is not intentional, and accidents happen. Don’t get too worked up and embarrassed about events like these. If they keep on happening maybe mention something to him or give him a sippy cup!
- At a nice BBQ with friends and children, your husband starts telling more and more inappropriate jokes the more he drinks. You are incredibly embarrassed. What are the people thinking! If something like this only happens occasionally, let it go and accept it. If these inappropriate jokes keep on happening, especially around children, sit your husband down and talk about how his actions influence those around him.
- The point you have been waiting for! Your husband just always gets too drunk at a family dinner or any social occasion for that matter. Don’t just focus on your own emotions but the emotions of those close to you as well. Sit him down (at a good time) and discuss his actions and how they affect others. Remind him that every action has a reaction.
Remember, no matter how the embarrassment is caused, there might be an excellent explanation for his actions.
Just remember that your happiness and wellbeing are more important than anything. Sometimes words won’t help, and it’s wiser just to pack up and leave.
When Is It Time To Leave Your Drunk Husband?
I’m not talking about walking away from a man you love because he occasionally gets a bit too drunk. I’m talking about walking away from a man who always gets too drunk and embarrassing, and you always need to please explain on his behalf.
Most of us have been there, lying and wondering if it’s all worth it. When you get to this point, it’s wise to look at the pros and cons of your relationship before just walking away. It’s also advised to take your morals into consideration.
I have known many adults who have walked away from a relationship because of alcohol and the embarrassments that come with it. What made me walk away was realizing that I want my children to one day have a father like I had when growing up. I have never seen my father be rude to my mother because of drinking. I have also never seen him drunk.
I can’t tell you when to walk away, but I can guarantee you that your gut is often right when it comes to the affairs of the heart.
Remember, you are not alone, and sometimes talking helps. First, try to solve the problem with your husband, especially if it’s not that bad.
If you suspect his actions have deeper psychological reasons have a calm conversation with him. Work through his pain and issues together.
After you have tried and not succeeded, it may be a better decision to walk away. I know it won’t be easy, and you want to stay in your comfortable bubble.
After all, growth is often uncomfortable, messy, and full of feelings you weren’t expecting, but it is necessary!